Elven Wedding Vows

Quenya Pronunciation

Sindarin Pronunciation

Related essay: An Elven Wedding

We don’t know what the actual wedding vows of the elves are, but we can guess.

At Betrothal

First, the two lovers discuss the possibility, (use the “In Love” phrases to pad this discussion as need be). Their discussion may end something like this:

Groom/Bride: I love you, and I want to marry you. What is your will? (Gives a silver ring to his/her lover)

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Melanyet az merin vesta tyenna. Man indotya ná?
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Melanyet ar merin vesta tyenna. Man indotya ná?
  • Doriathren/Woodelven Sindarin: Gi melin, ah ídhron gi *mestad. Ma i innas gîn?
  • Exilic Sindarin: Gi melin, ar aníron gi *mestad. Ma innasseg?

Response:
Groom/Bride: My will is like your will. At the end of one year, we shall wed! (Gives a silver ring to his/her lover.)

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Indonya ná ve indotya. Apa mine yénenna, veryuvalwe!
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Indonya ná ve indotya. Apa mine yénenna, veryuvalve!
  • Doriathren/Woodelven Sindarin: Ind nîn be ind gîn. Na veth min în, bestathanc!
  • Exilic Sindarin: Innen be inneg. Na veth min în, bestathanc!

The silver rings will be worn until they marry or decide to break up.

The elves hold a feast, with both elves’ families in attendance, and likely their friends as well. At some point during the feast, they stand where everyone can see and hear them. What they say might sound like this:

Groom and Bride together: Hail father and mother! Hail brothers and sisters! Hail male-friends and female-friends! We two will marry at the end of one year!

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Alla ontari az ontaro! Alla hánor az néthar! Alla meldor az melder! Veryuvamme apa mine yénenna!
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Alla ontari ar ontaro! Alla hánor ar nésar! Alla meldor ar melder! Veryuvamme apa mine yénenna!
  • Doriathrin Sindarin: Ai onron ah onril! Ai muindyr a muintheli! Ai meldir a meldis! *Bestathof na veth min în!
  • Woodelven Sindarin: Ai odhron ah odhril! Ai muindyr a vuintheli! Ai meldir a veldis! *Bestathof na veth min în!
  • Exilic Sindarin: Ai odhron ar odhril! Ai muindyr a vuinthil! Ai meldir a veldis! *Bestathof na veth min în!

Then everyone erupts into cheers and shouts well-wishes.

At the Terminating of Betrothal

Before they make the announcement, they have a discussion. Here is how the conversation may end:

Groom/Bride: Alas, this marriage isn’t our fate. (They give back their silver rings.)

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Ai, vestale sina lá ambartolwe.
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Ai, vestale sina lá ambartolve.
  • Doriathren/Exilic Sindarin: Nae, i *vestad hen *law amarth ‘wîn.
  • Woodelven Sindarin: Nê, i *vestad hen *law amarth ‘wîn.

They gather their friend and families by a fire, and melt their rings before them. They may say something like this:

Ex-lovers together: We destroy the tokens of our love, and we will not marry.

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Nan-cáramme i tengwi melmemmo, az lá veryuvamme.
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Nan-cáramme i tengwi melmemmo, ar lá veryuvamme.
  • Doriathren/Woodelven Sindarin: Dan-echedif i naid e-meleth vîn, ah avof *bestad.
  • Exilic Sindarin: Dan-echedif i naid e-meleth vîn, ar avof *bestad.

At Marriage

The Noldor have a special tradition that goes with marriage. Before or during the feast, the mother of the bride (if the mother isn’t available, another female relative will do this instead) will give the groom a gem hung on a chain to make a necklace, and the father (or male relative) will give the bride a gem hung on a chain.

A great feast is held, with the happy couple’s parents there. At some point during the feast, the couple joins hands and goes to a place where everyone at the feast can see them. Then the parents come forward to bless their marriage. Their blessings may sound something like this:

Mother of Bride: May Varda Star-kindler hear ___ and ___’s calls, and may Eru the Father of All bless them.

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Nai Varda Tintalle hlazuva elloi ___-wa az ___-wa, az nai Eru Ilúvatar alyuva tet.
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Nai Varda Tintalle laruva ellor ___-va ar ___-va, ar nai Eru Ilúvatar alyuva tet.
  • Doriathren/Woodelven Sindarin: Lasto iâl ___ ah ___, ah elio din Eru.
  • Exilic Sindarin: Lasto iâl ___ ar ___, ar elio din Eru.

Father of Groom: May Manwe Lord of Wind watch over ___ and ___, and may Eru the Father of All bless them.

  • Old/Vanyarin Quenya: Nai Manwe Thúlimo tiruva ___ az ___, az nai Eru Ilúvatar alyuva tet.
  • Exilic/Noldorin Quenya: Nai Manwe Súlimo tiruva ___ ar ___, ar nai Eru Ilúvatar alyuva tet.
  • Doriathren/Woodelven Sindarin: Tiro ___ ah ___ Aran Einior, ah elio din Eru.
  • Exilic Sindarin: Tiro ___ ar ___ Aran Einior, ar elio din Eru.

They give the silver rings back to each other, and give each other new gold rings which they put on the forefinger of their right hands.

After the feast, they have sex. Now the “In the Bedroom” phrases are useful. ;)

10 comments

  1. my boyfriend wants to have a Elven wedding when we get married… *blush* im still scared lol BUT STILL LOVE HIM TO NO END

    1. Well, it depends on what you want the ceremony to be. Do you want it to be an expression of your personalities, your personal life-achievement in having a long-term partner, or is it something that codifies and makes official in the eyes of those present the fact that you’ve chosen this person as your long-term partner, and that you are officially, legally partners? If it’s a more personal wedding – then an Elven wedding sounds great. Your guests might not understand a single word of your vows or know what’s going on, but they will know 100% that you are a nerd. If you want the wedding to be for the sake of the guests instead, do something that will make it official in their eyes, and keep them comfortable. Good luck on your wedding!

  2. My wife and I are having a elvish wedding and I want it to be the best it can be for her. Who and where can I find someone that can marry us for a elvish wedding?

  3. OK kool how much would you charge to coach them bc we don’t have much money and are doing all of this in a really tight budget

  4. Wow that is really awesome!!!!!. We will have to stay in touch and as soon as we find someone we will have them talk to you. Should I give you my email to stay in touch or should I just message you on here. Either way is fine with me. Oh and so you have any idea’s of good elvish wedding decorations or food website’s we can go on to order what we need? Sorry if I’m asking alot of questions my wife is my world and I just trying my hardest to make it the best day of her life like I want her eyes too light up.

  5. I just want to ask. So according to this, the bride & groom never actually say anything? The parents just bless them & they exchange the rings?

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